We’re at the halfway point of Leadership Step By Step’s exercises! This week’s exercise was to avoid imposing values on other people. What exactly does that entail? To start, avoid using the terms “good”, “bad”, “right”, and “wrong”, but with a stretch goal of also avoiding “should”, “appropriate”, “better”, and “worse”, among a few others. Not forever, but just for […]
Leadership Step By Step – Exercise #10: No, But, However
For the tenth exercise of Leadership Step By Step, I had a deceivingly simple task: do not start responses with the words “no”, “but”, or “however.” The goal of which was to become more self-aware of how you interact with people and specifically, whether you are communicating in a way that is detrimental to relationship-building. What does a good conversation […]
Leadership Step By Step – Exercise #9: Adopt a Challenging Belief
For the 9th exercise of Leadership Step By Step, I had to do the exact same thing as in Exercise 8 (feel an unwanted emotion, identify the unwanted belief, find a belief to replace it with), but now with a challenging belief. The trick is…I feel like the two beliefs I ended up trying to change for the last exercise […]
Leadership Step By Step – Exercise #8: Adopt a New Belief
For the next exercise, I had to adopt a new belief, using the book’s methodology: identify a negative emotion that comes up frequently, name it, identify the belief that brings rise to it, then identify the new emotion you want to replace it with, and come up with a replacement belief to think of everytime that negative emotion comes up. […]
Leadership Step By Step – Exercise #7: Authentic Voice
The Authentic Voice exercise is a simple exercise on the surface: instead of writing your inner monologue like I did in exercise #3, this time you have to verbalize it, first alone, but then with friends, family, or anyone else. The first couple of times doing this exercise on my own made it seem easy enough – it was just […]
Leadership Step By Step – Exercise #6: Unwanted Beliefs
This week, the Leadership Step By Step exercise was to attempt to identify unwanted beliefs everytime you feel an emotion you don’t like. This exercise felt distinctly different from the past two. Whereas when I was just trying to identify as many beliefs of mine or others felt like it was something I had to constantly remind myself to do, […]
Leadership Step By Step – Exercise #5: Write Others’ Beliefs
The exercise of the week was to write the beliefs of others (to the best of my ability, based on observations of behavior and words of others). I found the exercise to be more difficult than I anticipated it to be. Observing others with the goal of trying to identify their beliefs is harder than it sounds. First of all, […]